WHEN A BIRD SINGS....

Like Keyshia Cole says (damn, FYI Keyshia is pregnant...lol). I wish I had to ability to just let things go...not have stuff on my head or on my heart..must be nice not to have estrogen!! "If I were a Boy" LMAO I wonder...WWJD?

NID-HCA Offices Someone said to me…”you cannot lash out on me based on your previous experiences”..Initially this statement always makes sense. Until I thought long about it… (I am totally swamped at work; however, I cannot function with an uneasy mind set…so I had to take 10 minutes to get this off my chest) How do we form conclusions about certain experiences in life without having a personal experience with it? Let’s say for example…when people say, I don’t like sushi. I’m like...”Have you tried it” and they are like “No”…well how do you know that you don’t like it. So, from our experiences we develop an understanding of the things that we like and the things that we don’t like. From our experiences, we learn how we like to be treated and how we don’t like to be treated. So just because one is not saying that “well in the past…this happens…so this is why I am like this” that does not mean that there wasn’t a certain experience that helped them get that way. C...

Baller: you're not one because you spend 50% of your check on brand name clothing Cashing out: does not mean you went silly at the bars over the weekend now you're broke on Monday Diva Status: does not mean you just got a new lace front and so call "stunnin' on you hoes" Swag: does not mean you imitate everything Kanye or Rihanna does Model Chick: you're not one because you decided to spend $210 on a 1.5 hour photo shoot to post them on FB and Myspace so ppl can comment I could go on...but then everybody would say I'm a hater..then I'll say you're correct!! LOL

So, there has been a couple of incidents that has occurred either to me or others around me that I chose to address. This may hit home for some folks also... When a person decides to step out of the relationship, you know, cheat on their spouse. Now...their partner finds out that they are cheating. Okay..now who are you more concerned about..the cheating spouse or the other "person".. I am not sure why a lot of people focus their frustration with the other "person"..well actually, I do have a theory. I believe that it is easy for us to take our frustration out on the person who are feelings are not attached with. Its harder to face the person who really hurt you. From the looks of it..it seems that females are quick to be more upset with the other woman than their man. Most girls reasoning would be "she should have respect that that's my man" or " woman to woman she knows thats wrong". Well I have a couple of problems with this... #1 M...

DON'T POST THEM IF YOU DON'T WANT INAPPROPRIATE COMMENTS!! THATS ALL!! ALSO DON'T POST SH*T THAT YOU DON'T WANT PEOPLE QUESTIONING! I DON'T GET IT! I HAD ONE PERSON SAY "GET OUT MY BUSINESS"..."B*TCH ALL YOUR BUSINESS IS ON FACEBOOK" DUH!!!

No one is there when i need for them to be there....im tired of just being "convenient" for people....when are people gonna make me an inconvenience and it be okay...i dont know if that makes sense; but it makes sense in my head FYI you cannot be in love with someone and just say it...it just doesn't make sense...how do they know? just by listening to you? And what love go to do with it anyways!!! So what!! Whats next!! We got that out the way I feel like I am pretty much wifey material...not to be cocky or anything, but I know I have major potential...25 will be hear shortly, then 30...WTF?!?! when is Prince Charming going to get here!!! I just want someone to be there when I need him to be there!! Is that too much to ask? To answer when I call? to text when I text? for me to be on his line like he's on mine!! When is it my turn? Am I even ready... Hey, Blame it on the "Pinot Grigio" If my EX never taught me anything (which he did teach me a lot though; I c...

This is the new celebrity craze!! "Biker Gloves??" Well, lets keep are street smarts with these one and not let it hit the streets!! PLEASE!!!!

How do we relate to each other without fully understanding who you are? Is it possible...I'm sure because we all do it everyday!!! Can you be happy with someone else without being totally happy with who you are??

I'm not perfect, and we all know that I don't try to be. However, when it comes to my place of employment...I always strive to do my best. I like being a good worker, and having an awesome rapport with my supervisor. This is the first job that I've had to take direction...wait for a task, complete it, hand it in, get comments, revise, and blah blah blah. Now, I know I'm not in grade school...so I'm not asking for a gold star or anything. But I am human!! And minimal encouragers are great!! I cannot take just "RED INK" and "DID YOU DO THIS? DID YOU DO THAT?" all day!! It wears down on my confidence and my work doesn't get better it stays stagnate. I just want reassurance that my effort is furthering along the company's agenda... is it too much to ask? "I'm Just Sayin'"

"The Orchid Gardener" “My goal in making a painting is to get people to look at it and maybe see something they didn’t know before and want to keep looking at it until they see something else, and keep looking at it until they get what they can get from it.” Loren Holland

Please don't take me out and expect for me to give you some...lol Please don't buy me a meal and expect you can borrow $50 in two weeks...lol Don't do ANYTHING for me if you EXPECT something in return because that's not how I operate and you won't be around for long

"IF I GO CRAZY THEN WILL YOU STILL CALL ME SUPERMAN"....wait, the song has nothing to do with this blog...but I just LOVE KARAOKE!! [random tidbit] Okay, so I have a hard time of letting go of certain people. Do you have that same issue? Like it may be one or two or maybe three people who are consisently in and out of your life. You try very hard to remove them... like erasing their number (knowing you know it by heart anyway), removing anything that reminds you of them into a box (although you frequent the box once they run across your mind); even going to the extreme of changing your number (and somehow they always get it...or you eventually call them and they have it) Kryptonite...what to do...WWJD??

ARE FOR GIRLS (AND WHITE BOYS)!! ENOUGH SAID! I SHOULD NOT WALK INTO THE MACYS URBAN MEN'S DEPARTMENT AND ALL THE MANNICANS ARE WEARING SKINNY JEANS, YUCK!!

So the latest wave of people becoming a part of the social networking community has its perks and also its downfalls. I am here to address one of its downfalls that has really begun to irritate me (I know, I shouldn't be irritated so easily, but that's something I have to work on...so don't dwell on that and finish reading what I have to say, LOL) and that is POSERS!! Posers: A poser is someone who lives vicariously through social networking sites ...those who create a personality that does not accurately reflect who they are in person (as defined by Raven). I remember when I was in the 8th grade and the social networking was the party line. Now you had to be 18 or over to be on the party line; however, there was no real "ID" check..all you had to do was press 2 to enter. So at 13, it was fun to be a poser. You were on the chatline, talked with a "grown-up" like voice, called yourself Ashley when your name was Terry, and talk to guys. ...

So i am not sure what it is. But, I mean...i've been hit on by girls before. But every since my locs has gotten a little longer...the amount of lesbians hitting on me has increased. I am not sure if I am giving off a "I Kissed A Girl and I liked it" vibe or what!! The craziest story ever: I was at a house party...this girl was hella staring at me. So I'm like she must know me..but she is giving me a very weird look. So I am talking to my homegirl like what the hell is this girl looking at. Then she walks by me and hella stares me up and down. So I instantly turn west Oakland and tell my homegirl..."we about to have problems in here"...so the girl go stands at a distance..then she just just hella staring!! So i can't take..I walk over to her... and I'm like "Uh, do we know each other"...and she goes" No, not yet, but you over there looking hella good...so whats up"...I can't believe it, it was the last thing I was expecti...

So after I got off of work on my birthday, I instantly went through my hood to see who could I tell it was my birthday (lol, j/k...but not really). As I am driving...some guy is approaching me in his car. He instantly flags me down. So I'm thinking he must know me (I know, you all are thinking...you know that was trying to get at you...but I didn't think that because I didn't even think he saw me because of how fast he was driving) So I stop...then he was like whats up lil mama...I'm like nothing...he instantly pulls out a swisher and he is like "Yea, you need to pull over, roll these trees, and lets put something in the air for my birthday"...LOL...I'm like "its my birthday too" LOL..So I pulled over and he got out of the car. He was a little chubby guy, not bad looking...but a little grungy (however he was coming from work so it was excusable) I stayed in my car and he approach me. I deny his request for a session...which didn...