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Values- What does my inner core say?

I had been doing some thinking about how to make difficult decisions in life?  I actually decided to Google it...lol, because of course Google knows everything.  One of the first things that came up was a T.E.D talk by Ruth Chang.  I am not that into the T.E.D talk movement, but I decided to give it a shot.  I am not going to go into great detail about what the video was about (will provide the link at the end of this blog), but one thing that stood out that she discussed was how decision-making relates to our values.

I took a moment to think about, okay, what are my values? Honestly, I could not come up with anything.  So this evening, I took sometime to do some research.  Leave it to an academic to always want to research some sh*t. LOL

In doing some reading about values, the first question that comes up is: What is important to me?  Values are important because they help to guide our actions.  They reflect, or at least should reflect how we live in our personal and professional lives.  Values are our judgement system.  We use these values to judge ourselves and others.  So when people say, I don't judge other people...well to me its kind of impossible.  Because we all have our own value systems.  Now you may not be as vocal with your judgement, but I guarantee judgement is in your thoughts.  One thing that stood out from the article on Tiny Buddha (I love that site) was: "developing your value system in order to live the best life possible."  GOT DAMMIT! I want to live my best life possible, AND I am not accepting anything less.

My journey begins tonight...March 4, 2015.

So, what are my values.  I decided to do an activity to help me figure it out.  I used a tool from the Northwest Association for Biomedical Research (I know, how random...but it was mad
helpful).  So here are my values, prioritized.  The big headers are the overarching values, and the words that follow are just some values that make up the "main" value.

Fulfillment, Intellectual and Career Achievement
Accomplishment, ambition, aspiration, assiduousness, commitment, hardworking, helpfulness, honor initiative, love, perseverance, punctuality, resourcefulness, community, competitiveness, dedication, dependability, self-discipline, education

Family, Love, and Emotional Security
allegiance, appreciation, authenticity, caring, commitment, dedication, dependability, love, friendship, genuine, encouragement, helpfulness, loyalty, morals, supportive, respect, adventurousness

Honest & Integrity
dependability, allegiance, authenticity, commitment, genuine, honesty, loyalty, morals, perseverance, punctuality

Spirituality
community, caring, wisdom, love, honesty, loyalty, morals

 Appearance, Beauty, and Approval
health, competitiveness, dedication, accomplishment, commitment,



Ruth Chang-How to make hard decisions

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  1. UnknownApril 9, 2015 at 8:28 PM

    This makes my heart happy! Personal Development! Love it.

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