Coping with low moments

For a good chunk of my life, I have dealt with cycles of sadness. It comes and it goes...sometimes out of no where. It brings down my whole mood. I can't even function! Crippled!

Where does it come from? I am not sure really, but my mind starts racing. Just thoughts going in and out of my head. And these thoughts aren't good ones unfortunately. Its like I replay all of the negative things or the things I am not proud of or my lack of success or my misfortunes or what I don't have. These things just play over and over in my head and I cannot stop them.

It makes me feel weak, it makes me feel less than, it makes me feel worthless, it makes me feel just damn sad. Unfortunately, this weekend was one of those weekends. Although this may sound pretty miserable, well it is actually miserable, I have taken some steps to try and address this in my life.

Therapy.
Mindfulness.
Self help book.

I am just in the beginning of the "fix-it" stage, so I don't have total control over it yet. I decided to write about it; hoping to release it. However, on top of my depressed mood, I am also pretty darn sick! So that doesn't help at all.

But I just wanted to put it out there for Raven. To let Raven know that there is hope! To let Raven know to believe in herself! To let Raven stop and reflect on all that is good in her life, To let Raven know that she can't control everything. To let Raven know that happiness is a process and not a destination. What are you in a hurry for Raven?

You can only live this life how you know how. When you need to cry, just cry! Release it.

And Raven, you may not have all that you desire...but you do have your love for your self! You have to love your self more genuinely, Don't beat Raven up, she is putting in great effort to become this good, whole, loving, attractive,
responsible, desired, playful, smart, successful person she so desires to become.

Love thy self!

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