"Cuz I be gettin some...."

Good Morning...this is totally not normal for me to try and rush a blog at 6:00am in the morning before work. But ironically I woke up with "head" on my mind...lol (hmm...interesting)

I've been going back and forth with reasons why the Black women can be so, umm, for the lack of a better word "constrained" when it comes to sexuality. I am not going to discuss all of it because I wouldn't be able to finish this. I am really talking about "oral sex." It would seem that the stigma of "giving head" would not be so intense...but I feel as if it still is...

On the contrary, I have started to see more black guys talk about giving head on twitter and other outlets. But as a black female it still appears that "giving head" is a taboo thing or one of those things that you wouldn't tell your homegirl the next day.

I was at a club recently and Too Short was performing. He made a statement on stage "All you hoes can be on your period tonight...but that don't matter...because all my niggas still getting head tonight." Instantly I was turned off.

Then I started to hear different songs, and saying "suck my dick" or "get on your knees" is frequently used as an insult in most hip hop songs. They make it appear disgraceful. So its hard for a black woman to be comfortable with something that people turn around and "disrespect" her by telling her to "suck my dick" (as if that is so low).

So the moral of this story...fellas if you want women to give you head or not be embarrassed to give you head...stop using it as an insult as if its a dirty thing...you all are catering to a lot of women demise with giving head.

FYI My view on it...in the bedroom anything goes as long as both parties are comfortable with it. I am not the one to judge...so you are not a hoe if you LIKE to give your partner head. Hey, I take it as I enjoy pleasing him...and in turn, I that pleases me

"I'm Just Saying"

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