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Someone said to me…”you cannot lash out on me based on your previous experiences”..Initially this statement always makes sense. Until I thought long about it…

(I am totally swamped at work; however, I cannot function with an uneasy mind set…so I had to take 10 minutes to get this off my chest)

How do we form conclusions about certain experiences in life without having a personal experience with it? Let’s say for example…when people say, I don’t like sushi. I’m like...”Have you tried it” and they are like “No”…well how do you know that you don’t like it.

So, from our experiences we develop an understanding of the things that we like and the things that we don’t like. From our experiences, we learn how we like to be treated and how we don’t like to be treated. So just because one is not saying that “well in the past…this happens…so this is why I am like this” that does not mean that there wasn’t a certain experience that helped them get that way.

Coming into this world as babies we don’t know much. We fall down on our knees, and we then know that hurts. We play with fire, and then we know that burns. We love a fool, and then we know that is stupid.

Here is a story…so this guy at my college had a crush on me for FOUR years! I know, right! Lol. But anyways he finally got the courage to ask me out on a lunch date. FYI he was a white guy. So we go out to my favorite pizza location in Davis. Somehow we started to talk about history. He must have said the worst thing possible “I don’t understand why history matters; because it’s the past …we should be focus on the present and our lives.” That was the last date me and my “Ken Doll” would ever have. I suppose he didn’t know he was talking to a Black girl with a Sankofa tattoo. But I gave that story because he thought I should not consider my history in my everyday doings. I am like…well it only makes sense for me to do so…because my history is the reason why I can vote!!!

Now, I also have to present the rebuttal…I am not saying that because you had a bad experience with a white guy in the past…that means “no more white guys.” No, that just doesn’t make any sense. Too broad of a generalization.

The moral of this story is...I am not sure if one should take it personal when someone recognizes that they react a certain way because of a previous experience…because life is about experiences...Learning and developing yourself from them!!

I’m Just Saying


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