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BLAME HIM!! Not HER!

So, there has been a couple of incidents that has occurred either to me or others around me that I chose to address. This may hit home for some folks also...

When a person decides to step out of the relationship, you know, cheat on their spouse. Now...their partner finds out that they are cheating. Okay..now who are you more concerned about..the cheating spouse or the other "person"..

I am not sure why a lot of people focus their frustration with the other "person"..well actually, I do have a theory. I believe that it is easy for us to take our frustration out on the person who are feelings are not attached with. Its harder to face the person who really hurt you.

From the looks of it..it seems that females are quick to be more upset with the other woman than their man. Most girls reasoning would be "she should have respect that that's my man" or " woman to woman she knows thats wrong". Well I have a couple of problems with this...

#1 My biggest issues with relationships/marriages is this sense of ownership of the other person. This whole "that's my man" doesn't make any sense. If he truly "belong" to you then he wouldn't be with her

#2 "Woman to Woman"..well it wasn't "woman to woman" when you stared me down in the club for no reason..it wasn't "woman to woman" when I complimented you and you didn't know how to take it...it wasn't "woman to woman" when I walked in the room and received nothing but funny looks from "woman to woman". Ladies find it convenient to get on the "Female Power" hype only when it suits them best

I figure this..be mad at him! Leave the other girl out of it. Because your man made a conscious decision to step out of your relationship, so deal with him!!

I'm just saying!!
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  1. AnonymousDecember 1, 2009 at 12:27 PM

    This is awesome. I second AND third this sentiment. Hooray for you.

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  2. AnonymousDecember 29, 2010 at 9:50 AM

    Good blog Raven. I think its easier to criticize the "other" leaving them anonymous than to realize you might have made the wrong decision in choosing your own mate.

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