LADIES....Ask to see it, before you DO IT!!

Hey, I just have to get a little bit "X-Rated" for a second...Now, I don't know if you already knew this rule...but it took me a while before I learned it...

Let's see...I lost my virginity pretty late in my life....in my sophomore year in college...I never really knew much about sex, besides what I heard on TV and what my friends would tell me about their "Sex-capades"...I heavily relied on what I saw on TV though...it always looked so great on TV. Anyways, I knew that when I watched sex scenes on TV....both parties looked like they was really enjoying themselves. The only thing I knew when I started my own "sex-capades" was that I wanted SEX TO BE LIKE IN THE MOVIES!! Let me tell you....uhh, it didn't quite happen that way...I started to realize that the boys had most of the fun...I mean, they always came!! I thought maybe it was something wrong with me....but when I looked them in their face...they seemed to be enjoying themselves!! So....I started to consider revamping the way I was doing this whole sex thing....

I took charge of my sex life...I withheld sex, until I knew that my partner was ready to satisfy me...well that didn't work well....because how was I suppose to know when they were ready....so my hormones started to override my logical way of thinking...so I gave in...and that sucked!! Because the next time around...I got the "short end of the stick"...literally!! LOL I only knew it was short because I couldn't tell the difference between the start and the finish...

I discussed this with one of my homegirls and she suggested that I start asking to see what I'm dealing with before actually "dealing with it." At first, I thought that would be invasive....but what the f*ck!! He was going to be "invasive"...SO....

A little tangent...I'm not going to just blame it all on the guys...because it took me a while to understand what made Raven "go"...it took some personal exploring of myself....which I do believe is important...I think its important for ladies to understand what makes them feel good first before expecting a man to read your mind...And guess what ladies!! Its okay to guide him into doing the right things....

The moral of the story is....PLEASE STOP HAVING BAD SEX!! ITS JUST NOT OKAY!! IF YOU DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE ASKING TO SEE IT, THEN TAKE A PEEK!! DON'T LET IT BE A SURPRISE!!

I'M JUST SAYING!!

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